The ideal gentleman expresses himself on the subject of women’s reproductive health by giving enough money to Planned Parenthood that they invite him to cocktail parties, where he sparklingly talks about other topics.
In general, I think we need to move away from the premise that being a good person is a fixed immutable characteristic and shift towards seeing being good as a practice. And it is a practice that we carry out by engaging with our imperfections. We need to shift towards thinking that being a good person is like being a clean person. Being a clean person is something you maintain and work on every day.We don’t assume ‘I am a clean person therefore I don’t need to brush my teeth.’ When someone suggests to us that we have something stuck in our teeth we don’t say to them ‘What do you mean I have something stuck in my teeth—but I’m a clean person?!’
Jay Smooth in his TED speech “how I learned to stop worrying and love discussing race” (via tropicanastasia)
Jay Smooth almost always a reblog
Dude nailed it. We all need to work at being good. Even if we think we are.
This applies to so much
If you’re designing a neighborhood, and surveying people in the neighborhood to decide which restaurants to put where, don’t ask “where should we put each restaurant?” Ask “what do you want for dinner tonight?” and then do the analysis yourself.
You’ll get an answer to the first question if you ask it, but it’ll be stupid. They actually KNOW THE ANSWER to what they want for dinner tonight. And a lot of answers to that will help you do your job.